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Problem Behaviours

Problem behaviours are continuous behaviours that negatively affect your life and the lives of the people you love and care about, that hinder communication, social relations and learning. They can manifest themselves as unwanted habits or addictions which bring short term comfort and relief but cause long term damage and unhappiness. The common trait of unwanted habits or addictions is that you may feel out of control or divided into two; one part of you knowing that you need to stop, the other part compelled to do what it needs to do. 

This “battle of titans”, is actually a battle between your conscious and subconscious mind. To explain in a very simplified way:

All those behaviours, such as smoking, over-eating, alcohol or recreational drugs abuse, sex, gambling or pornography addiction, nail biting, hair pulling etc, go back to a point where you have experienced a moment of relief from difficult emotions, stress, anxiety, feeling of inadequacy, not fitting in etc. by performing one of those actions, and your subconscious mind, whose job it is to protect you from pain and keep you happy, noticed your relief and installed the behaviour, as a valid way of dealing with the unwanted feelings. It is like a mini computer programme; next time you feel that way, repeat that behaviour, you’ll feel better. But the programme is faulty! It is like a virus and causes you harm.

The good news is that those faulty programmes can be un-installed and replaced by useful ones.

Hypnotherapy works directly with the subconscious mind and in hypnosis, it is possible for you to access the core of the problem,  in this super calm, stress-free and resourceful state and come up with your solutions to deal with it, in a more realistic and constructive way.

Then, using positive suggestions, you can install better problem-solving techniques and more adequate responses, so that you don’t resort to the problem behaviour, when faced with difficult situations of everyday life. Finally, you can practice your success and take the first step to your new life.

Give hypnotherapy a go!

Problem behaviours are continuous behaviours that negatively affect your life and the lives of the people you love and care about, that hinder communication, social relations and learning. They can manifest themselves as unwanted habits or addictions which bring short term comfort and relief but cause long term damage and unhappiness. The common trait of unwanted habits or addictions is that you may feel out of control or divided into two; one part of you knowing that you need to stop, the other part compelled to do what it needs to do.

This “battle of titans”, is actually a battle between your conscious and subconscious mind. If I can explain in a very simplified way:

 All those behaviours, such as smoking, over-eating, alcohol or recreational drugs abuse, sex, gambling or pornography addiction, nail biting, hair pulling etc, go back to a point where you have experienced a moment of relief from difficult emotions, stress, anxiety, feeling of inadequacy, not fitting in etc. by performing one of those actions, and your subconscious mind, whose job it is to protect you from pain and keep you happy, noticed your relief and installed the behaviour, as a valid way of dealing with the unwanted feelings. It is like a mini computer programme; next time you feel that way, repeat that behaviour, you’ll feel better. But the programme is faulty! It is like a virus and causes you harm.

The good news is that those faulty programmes can be un-installed and replaced by useful ones.

Hypnotherapy works directly with the subconscious mind and in hypnosis, it is possible for you to access the core of the problem,  in this super calm, stress-free and resourceful state and come up with your solutions to deal with it, in a more realistic and constructive way.

Then, using positive suggestions, you can install better problem-solving techniques and more adequate responses, so that you don’t resort to the problem behaviour, when faced with difficult situations of everyday life. Finally, you can practice your success and take the first step to your new life.

Give hypnotherapy a go!

Life is so much more than a problem and you are so much more than your problems!

Improving self-esteem and confidence

Self-esteem is the opinion we have about ourselves, our perceived self-worth.

People with healthy self-esteem have a positive view of themselves and the world. Looking at situations from this angle, they are better at dealing with whatever life throws at them.

Low self-esteem, on the other hand,  manifest itself as negative feelings about yourself and critical self-talk, lack of self-respect and a general sense shame and helplessness. People with low self-esteem are too bothered about what others think and how they might be judging them. They display a lack of assertiveness; find it hard to express their own needs, ideas and feelings, shy away from open communication and may come across as cynical and passive-aggressive.  They also have an unhealthy, dismissive attitude to their own effort and achievements and may have set impossibly high standards for themselves.

It is important to know that this lack of self-worth is not an innate trait. We are not born with it. It is a learned phenomenon,  from the messages sent by people we hold in high regard, such as parents, teachers, peers, social media influencers and most importantly, how we interpreted these messages. We may be left feeling that we are not good enough and we failed to meet their expectations, or our own.

Our level of self-esteem can change during our lives, depending on the situations. For instance, a loving, caring relationship and an appreciative and supportive work environment may help increase our self -esteem, whereas stress, difficult life situations, serious illness can knock it off. As a vicious circle, people with low self-esteem tend to choose or stay longer in controlling and abusive relationships, which reinforces their lack of self-worth. They may be jealous of their partners, because they find it hard to believe they are worth loving and they may end up sabotaging their relationships.

Low self-esteem can lead to depression and anxiety, eating disorders, dependency. You may also develop undesirable self-soothing behaviours (e.g. hair pulling, nail biting, scratching) and resort to self-medication (drugs/alcohol) to cope. Withdrawal from social situations, avoiding challenges and new experiences can limit your  life and work performance increasingly.

The good news is, as I mentioned above, low self-esteem is not ingrained in our DNA. It is learned and can be changed! 

Hypnotherapy can help you connect with your unconscious mind and

  • Identify your most common self-critical thoughts and negative self-bias,
  • Evaluate and challenge the validity of these thoughts and feelings
  • Learn how to devise more positive alternatives, such as setting more realistic goals, developing better problem-solving skills,
  • Improve your communication skills
  • appreciate your own success and achievements

It is never too late to seek therapy and feel totally empowered.  To be happy, we need to love, appreciate and trust ourselves first!

Self-esteem is the opinion we have about ourselves, our perceived self-worth.

People with healthy self-esteem have a positive view of themselves and the world. Looking at situations from this angle, they are better at dealing with whatever life throws at them.

Low self-esteem, on the other hand,  manifest itself as negative feelings about yourself and critical self-talk, lack of self-respect and a general sense shame and helplessness. People with low self-esteem are too bothered about what others think and how they might be judging them. They display a lack of assertiveness; find it hard to express their own needs, ideas and feelings, shy away from open communication and may come across as cynical and passive-aggressive.  They also have an unhealthy, dismissive attitude to their own effort and achievements and may have set impossibly high standards for themselves.

It is important to know that this lack of self-worth is not an innate trait. We are not born with it. It is a learned phenomenon,  from the messages sent by people we hold in high regard, such as parents, teachers, peers, social media influencers and most importantly, how we interpreted these messages. We may be left feeling that we are not good enough and we failed to meet their expectations, or our own.

Our level of self-esteem can change during our lives, depending on the situations. For instance, a loving, caring relationship and an appreciative and supportive work environment may help increase our self -esteem, whereas stress, difficult life situations, serious illness can knock it off. As a vicious circle, people with low self-esteem tend to choose or stay longer in controlling and abusive relationships, which reinforces their lack of self-worth. They may be jealous of their partners, because they find it hard to believe they are worth loving and they may end up sabotaging their relationships.

Low self-esteem can lead to depression and anxiety, eating disorders, dependency. You may also develop undesirable self-soothing behaviours (e.g. hair pulling, nail biting, scratching) and resort to self-medication (drugs/alcohol) to cope. Withdrawal from social situations, avoiding challenges and new experiences can limit your  life and work performance increasingly.

The good news is, as I mentioned above, low self-esteem is not ingrained in our DNA. It is learned and can be changed! 

Hypnotherapy can help you connect with your unconscious mind and

  • Identify your most common self-critical thoughts and negative self-bias,
  • Evaluate and challenge the validity of these thoughts and feelings
  • Learn how to devise more positive alternatives, such as setting more realistic goals, developing better problem-solving skills,
  • Improve your communication skills
  • appreciate your own success and achievements

It is never too late to seek therapy and feel totally empowered.  To be happy, we need to love, appreciate and trust ourselves first!

New horizons, coaching with hypnotherapy

So far,  I have mainly talked about addressing specific health and well-being issues with hypnotherapy. In fact, its use can extend to new horizons, such as coaching. As I’ve mentioned before, in hypnosis, all your senses are heightened, your imagination runs free, you are so calm and relaxed, that your mind becomes crystal clear and you feel well.

 Now, when I say these are the ideal conditions for learning and creativity, I am sure you see where I am coming from. So, how about experiencing coaching, combined with hypnotherapy techniques?

There are lots of people around, who are unhappy in their carriers, haven’t found a way forward after retirement, need to move on but got stuck and struggling on their own.

I would like to call on you. This is your opportunity!

Come and try hypnotherapy to reconnect with your inner strength, most creative ideas, your desire to go out and do something different, your joy, your youthful energy that never disappears regardless of your date of  birth.

If you are heartbroken, let’s repair it with golden threat of love and forgiveness.

Together, we can explore some new horizons without boundaries or judgements. Every masterpiece was an image first, every great product, an idea! If you’ve stalled, let’s get you moving again.

I will leave you with the kind words of my “coaching with hypnotherapy techniques” client, Phoebe.

So far,  I have mainly talked about addressing specific health and well-being issues with hypnotherapy. In fact, its use can extend to new horizons, such as coaching. As I’ve mentioned before, in hypnosis, all your senses are heightened, your imagination runs free, you are so calm and relaxed, that your mind becomes crystal clear and you feel well.

 Now, when I say these are the ideal conditions for learning and creativity, I am sure you see where I am coming from. So, how about experiencing coaching, combined with hypnotherapy techniques?

There are lots of people around, who are unhappy in their carriers, haven’t found a way forward after retirement, need to move on but got stuck and struggling on their own.

I would like to call on you. This is your opportunity!

Come and try hypnotherapy to reconnect with your inner strength, most creative ideas, your desire to go out and do something different, your joy, your youthful energy that never disappears regardless of your date of  birth.

If you are heartbroken, let’s repair it with golden threat of love and forgiveness.

Together, we can explore some new horizons without boundaries or judgements. Every masterpiece was an image first, every great product, an idea! If you’ve stalled, let’s get you moving again.

I will leave you with the kind words of my “coaching with hypnotherapy techniques” client, Phoebe.

I first contacted Müge as I felt my life had stalled. I was happy, but I was stuck in an overall unchanging pattern with little volition to change. I knew where I used to want to be, but wasn’t sure I was still headed there, or whether I wanted to be. I had a fuzzy mind and unorganised thoughts when I tried to embark on ‘the bigger picture’. I spoke to Müge on the phone and she asked succinct and leading questions to get me thinking and gain an idea of my situation. When we sat down to talk, she had an incredible grasp of the workings and intricacies of my work industry (film), and a better grasp on the issues I faced than anyone I had talked to before. Over the course of our chats, my thoughts became more organised, and as a result, my ambitions and goals became clear. We discussed together the actions I needed to take to get to where I now knew I wanted to be. I was astonished at how easy it all seemed. This was down to Müge. She listens and is organised, thorough, and makes a very difficult task seem easy and approachable. She does all this with a sense of fun and adventure. I left each visit feeling energised and excited for the future. I can’t recommend her highly enough

Phoebe F, 31, Film Industry, Coaching Client

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